Love & Hate

Homophobia in jamaica is real, but so is hypocrisy. Many people participate in same sex acts, but will lie about it and hate the next person who is open about their sexuality out of self hatred and/or fear of judgment.

I was watching an interview of a Dancehall musical artist who was banned from performing abroad due to his homophobic lyrics and when asked about it his response was along the lines of growing up in a country where there is the most churches per capita in the world and they all preach that homosexuality is wrong, and in my country [Jamaica] the act of buggery is illegal. So, as an artist how can you judge my musical expression when this is what I’ve been exposed to all my life? I had to look at this from his perspective and agree. I feel everyone has the right to express themselves freely especially in art form. How can you tell someone that all they know and learned is wrong? I don’t necesarily agree with the part that hurts people, actually as a gay person it doesn’t really bug me. If I don’t agree with a song or I don’t like it, I simply don’t listen to it. This may sound hypocritical, but I was raised listening to the Dancehall genre and to be quite honest it doesn’t bother me. I feel it would bother me if I was less secure with who I am. Which brings me to my next part…

Most men, I find even if homosexual hate or pass judgement on the next man, either because that man knows something about them they don’t want others to know or believe or simply because they are questioning another mans masculinity. Both to me seem pretty lame, yet are so real. Homophobia is so broad and constantly lingering in the air it’s almost as if you have to adapt and ignore it in order to get through your day or try and change everyones perspective…I’m not that patient.

Spreading hate isn’t cool, but hating yourself is even worse. The real problem is the fear of a gay person exceeding them in life, being secure and open and confident with their life choices or simply just being a gay man and being the epitome of what society considers a man to be. Strong, confident, a provider, etc… I feel like those are the things that Jamaicans fear more than an individuals sexual preference… Sounds like a personal problem to me. Unfortunately, too many people think this way.

“Love and hate can never be friends..” – Dennis Brown

Shar-Dey

My name is Shar-Dey, I'm 23 years old, born and raised in Toronto. I belong to Lac Seul First Nation, and I am of Jamaican descent. I am the Resource Mobilization Assistant with Caribbean Vulnerable Communities in Jamaica.

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My name is Shar-Dey, I'm 23 years old, born and raised in Toronto. I belong to Lac Seul First Nation, and I am of Jamaican descent. I am the Resource Mobilization Assistant with Caribbean Vulnerable Communities in Jamaica.
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